In this episode, I discuss the importance of who you spend your time with. Who exactly are you hanging out with over the course of your week? Are they people who share similar goals and have similar drive? Or are they complainers full of negative energy and bad attitudes?
Jim Rohn once famously said that you are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. I have found this to be absolutely true in my life.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” –Jim Rohn
In the past, I have spent time with people who were in the same place as I was. Not where I wanted to be at all. They were not where they wanted to be either. The difference is that I wanted to improve my situation and they were more content to complain and do nothing. I have also spent a lot of time with people who were in worse situations than myself, and they usually were filled with negativity, doubt, or worse, lethargy. I am not strictly talking about finances here either. I am talking about being happy with your life in general: relationships, career, and finances.
It can be difficult to tell people in your life who don’t share the same goals and attitude as you that you are not going to be spending as much time with them. Maybe they are even family members. The bottom line is that, if you want to change your life and pursue your goals, it’s difficult to do that surrounded by negativity and by people who don’t share the same goals and aspirations as you do. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that everyone has to want what you want. It is much more of a general outlook on life than it is sharing specific goals. If your goal is to be a millionaire you don’t necessarily have to hang out with other people who want to be millionaires. You do, however, need to try and spend time with people who are ambitious or who have goals of making their lives better in a dramatic way. The specific goals aren’t necessarily important, just the desire to be better and to have a positive impact on their own lives as well as on the lives of those they spent time with.
I would bet that if you take inventory of the five people that you spend the most time with over the course of the week, you are somewhere in the middle. In other words you are most likely the approximate average of those people in terms of money, relationships, and/or happiness.
This is just the way it ends up working out. And if you believe that, and know it to be true, you have a responsibility to yourself to start associating and building relationships with people who share your goals or who are living your ideal life. These people will help bring you up to their level of happiness or success.